Our emotions can tend to overwhelm us. Especially those that seem negative. Even if their intensity is specific to each of us and when faced with a given situation we can each feel things differently, they are part of our lives and cannot be controlled.
They are often even useful, even benevolent, because they are the internal signal that allows us to react in this or that case: faced with an unpleasant superior, with children who push us to the limit, with a friend who says hurtful words...
We should therefore actually release these negative emotions that invade us in order to be able to tame them and above all not reject them. Accepting your emotions would reduce their impact and then be able to understand and use them. And that’s when you become master of the game!
As a reminder, we have 4 basic emotions: anger, fear, sadness, joy. So obviously, if we block our seemingly negative emotions, we also block joy, which it would be a real shame to deprive ourselves of!
So to welcome our emotions, we try not to judge ourselves and we let them pass through us, both pleasant and unpleasant emotions.
We still identify negative emotions and we put words to them because a good way to free ourselves is to express the emotion. Being able to talk to a friend about what we are feeling allows us to detach ourselves from it.
In a complicated situation, we take a break. Breathing for 2 minutes and leaving the room allows us to react differently and adopt another response or reaction to the context.
We put things into perspective and we don't make assumptions, we thus calm our feelings of anger by not interpreting in the wrong way what someone meant when we didn't have the slightest idea.
Ultimately what poses a problem for us is not emotion in itself, but when it takes over our behavior. But one thing is certain: there are no good or bad emotions. We just have to welcome them without judgment and with kindness, both towards ourselves and towards others.
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