Post 21: Think about yourself!

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Mental self-coaching ;)

Hello ,

Well, if I had to draw myself it would look like this….

But it's a little easy to hide behind my screen & my illustrations from the start, this post is the ideal opportunity to present myself a little more in real life/live:

What if thinking about yourself started first by accepting yourself as you are... ;)

#Charlotte , Parisian, rather committed, even enthusiastic and yet superficial in many aspects, I have a rather good, let's say it clearly, strong character ;), I am an only child, it's classic, right?

I fought K but I'm not my K , I'm Charlotte I'm 29 years old today, I was 27 when Mister K came to invade my body! Today, I must rebuild my dream, a new dream, that of a more beautiful life, because after the K no other choice!

Before being ill I was rather “light”, anxious, today I believe that I am freer in my head because I have no other choice but to savor this freedom which gives me breath and a wealth to go even further, even higher, because I am no longer afraid (well almost, I just have the chips that it could come back)!

I am different because I was ill, a sort of UFO for people of my age perhaps, it deprived me of being able to give life, but I am the same deep down, this difference must be no longer becomes a fight because the battle is over (I hope forever), but an asset, a strength that allows me to be gentle with myself, and to relish life “simply”.

I am not Charlotte sick or ex sick, I am just Charlotte, who went through the ordeal and who today can write to you, to give you my tips, my advice, to instill in you I hope the same rage and strength of life nestled in essential tools in my opinion!

Assuming who we are is also the path to freedom of thought, not fitting into a box, not sticking to a mold. What is beautiful I find in K fighters is that no barriers exist anymore, when we have lived the K, no social, sartorial, religious diktat separates us, because we have reached the end fingers the very essence of sincerity, admitting and seeing more quickly than expected that we were mortal... Every “social” category experiences Cancer, no one is spared, and in France thank God everyone can be treated equally It's more than beautiful, it's big, despite a thousand hazards we are lucky to live in a beautiful country!

Well.... forgive my low-level philosophical tirades, but when I start with this type of reflection I can go very far!

Brief:

Since the idea of ​​creating my blog, my intention has been to infuse as much as possible a wave of "positive" waves to arm one's fight as best as possible, to make the battle as "gentle" as possible!

By rereading myself I realize that I have given many of my tips, but forgetting the essential motivation of my intentions!

The intention is obviously to give you my keys but through these keys the essential thing that emerges is ultimately to admit that the crucial need we have when we are sick is to regain our dignity!

Once again, I am no one to dictate a course of action, I am just a young woman who went through the ordeal, and who recounts her experience of Mister K, I do not pretend to want to replace you. battle, I just want to pass on the keys that helped me and can help those who wish!

K, we have 2 ways to experience it: we endure it, or we accept it to better fight against it and find all the good plans to support it! I had chosen this option: to stay as positive as possible because in any case this disease was already so shitty that I had to:

1) keep hope

2) preserve my dignity!

#You don't become a K fighter!

we are who we are by fighting against a parasite that comes to rent our body!

The disease should in no way take over who you were before (it should just make you better), I'M CHARLOTTE, I was 27 at the time, I'm a stylist and this shit from K came to upset my carelessness! He reduced my fertility ambitions to nothing ( yes I'm rambling but it's true that the “pill” has difficulty passing ), he stole almost 2 years of my life... But! this illness revealed my greatest resources: an unprecedented rage to live, to accept, to be resilient, combative and thanks to Mister K I refocused my life (ok I would have done without it, but that's how it is ) ! Today I just have to soften, and regain a taste for simple things, and learn to LET GO ( it's not yet won )!!

What I'm getting at is trying to forget the illness for a moment, and remember who we are, what we like, what we don't like, what makes us feel good. , which displeases us , never lose confidence in your deep being. If there's one thing that's super positive to take away, it's this! Refocusing on who we really are is the opportunity to be 100% egocentric for once in your life, and therefore to only listen to your body, your mind and its needs!

This phase can go through several stages:

1) refocus those around you, only choose people who will do you good, and put negative people or elements on hold. The entourage is an essential pillar, you must be accompanied by the strong, the generous, the caring, the attentive, those who really love you, the others ZAP!

2) know yourself/listen to yourself: as I said in my post 16: anger/loneliness , it's very important to learn to really know yourself, and when shit like this falls on you, even if those around you are precious, I believe that it is essential to use a psychologist to empty your bag on the one hand, but above all to know yourself better, on the other hand!

3) in addition to the psychologist, I believe that meditation can also be an excellent way to listen to yourself! listen to your body, know how to do good for yourself, and know what your body needs!

ALL this to get to where? to stay yourself! don't let yourself go! stay dignified! remain a woman or a man! stay yourself! even having undergone mutilating surgeries, even with the ball at 0, look at yourself in the mirror and love yourself!

To preserve this self-esteem, I rely heavily on "essentials" during the battle: remaining stylish, beautiful, smelling good, putting on makeup, getting dressed, playing sports (if possible), looking at yourself in ice cream and say to yourself every day like in the ad or Julie's interview : "I'm a kick-ass K fighter" !!!

This post is therefore the subject of a little reminder concerning the deep motivation of my blog, and the projects to come!

Even if Mister K bursts into our lives, being beautiful / handsome / dignified / flirtatious / dressed is fighting for your life!

Fight for the image that you will reflect firstly on yourself but also on others, the “others” are the mirror of yourself!

I pride myself on having been able to keep this “dignity” which was so dear to me!

I admit that having kept my hair helped me a lot with that, but even this hair thing doesn't spoil your femininity in any way, Mom was sublime without her hair, my friend Ilona was sublime! Even my 33 cm vertical scar on my stomach, even my huge, not-so-great circle which reminds me of the former presence of the "Stoma" (and that's saying something, the Ostomy is really not glam), and despite that , I am who I am, I am Charlotte and ultimately I am the same, I was the same, I am just stronger than before ;)

Why, because beauty is subjective, because beauty is in the head if we value ourselves we are beautiful, if we respect ourselves we are beautiful, if we are worthy we are beautiful!

Beauty is an attitude and the facade renovation clearly contributes to strengthening your attitude ! So don't deprive yourself of everything that exists to stay yourself (cream / make up / massage / sport / shopping)

>> I invite you to reread my posts, to arm your fight "gently", and you will see below in real life what it looked like ;):

HAIR OBSESSION // BEAUTY KIT // LOOK // treatments alongside a booster

Gentlemen, I have not forgotten you because I know that your needs are essential too, a next post will be dedicated to you!

So even if it's difficult, we take off our pilou pilou pajamas, we rush into the bathroom, we spread cream on our body, we do ourselves good, we wrap ourselves in our most beautiful scarf, hat, we wear our favorite outfit, we put on makeup and we love each other ;)!

My next posts will therefore be in the same vein!

I will remind you what my flagship techniques/shadows were ( again in colorful drawings, it's okay I've shown my face enough ;) ), to give you the keys to boost yourself during the battle, to feel beautiful or beautiful thanks to a few tips and my famous major construction project, which will see the light of day next December:

" What if Mister K fighting Kit became real "Essential Kits" to arm your fight, in Kits/cases of softness….? I'll tell you more very very soon ;)

Thank you for taking the time to read me

Beautiful day

Charlotte

<:en>Hello, So If I had to draw myself, it would be like this….

Bit it's a little bit easy to stash me behind my screen and my illustrations, this post is the ideal moment to present myself for real I mean more in live.

And to think about yourself first start to accept yourself as you are ☺

#Charlotte, Parisian girl, engaged even exalted, yet superficial on many aspects, I have let's clearly say a strong character ☺ I am an only child, classic isn't it?

I fought K but I'm not my K, I am Charlotte I am 29 today I was 27 when Mister K came to invade my body! Today, I have to rebuild my dream, one of a better life, because of after K, no other choice!

Before being sick, I was more “light”, anxious I think that I am freer in my head today because I have no other choice to enjoy my freedom which gives me breath and wealth to go further even higher and I have no longer fear!

I am different because I was ill, kind of oddity maybe for people of my age, deprived myself to give life to a baby, but I am the same basically, it is necessary that this difference becomes no longer a fight because the battle is over (I hope for always), but an asset, a strength that allows me to be gentle with myself, and to simply re-enjoy life.

I am not sick or ex sick, I am just Charlotte, who passed through an ordeal and that can today write to you, to give you my tricks, my advice, to instill I hope so the same fury and strength of nested life, with essential tools in my view!

Assume who you are, is also the way to freedom of thought, to not go into a box, to not stick to a mold. What is beautiful in K fighters I consider is that no barrier exists anymore, when we lived the K, no social diktat, sartorial, religious do us apart, because we fingered the essence of sincerity, admit and realize faster than expected that we are mortal … all “social” category lives cancer, no one is spared, and in France thanks God everyone can be cured equally! it's more than beautiful, it's great, despite thousands of hazards we are lucky to live in a beautiful country!

Well, forgive my third-rate philosophical tirades, but when I'm starting this type of thought I can go so far that's crazy…

Anyway:

Since the idea to create my blog, my intention is to insist as much as possible with a wave of positive vibes to arm my fight the best possible, to make the fight the most “gentle” as possible!

Rereading me, I realize that I gave many of my tricks, but forgetting the essential motivation of my intentions!

The intention is of course to give you my keys but through these keys the essential that is drawn is finally to admit that the critical need that we have when we are sick is to find your dignity again!

Once again, I am nobody to dictate a behavior to follow, I am just a young woman who gets through an ordeal, and that relates her background, I have not the pretention wanting to replace myself to your battle, I have the want to transmit the keys that helped me and can help those who desire it!

The K, we have 2 ways to live it either we undergo it, or we accept it to better fight with him and find all good plans to support him! I chose this option: stay the most positive as possible because anyway this disease was so shitty that I owed to myself:

1) To keep hope

2) Preserve my dignity!

#We don't believe K fighter! We are who we are by fighting against a parasite, which subleases our body!

The disease must in no case gets the upper hand on who you were before (she has to make you better) I AM CHARLOTTE, I was 27 at the time, I am a fashion designer and this crap of K came and overturned my recklessness! He reduced me to nothingness my fertility ambition (Yes, I ramble but it's true that the “pill” struggled to move), he stole 2 years of my life… But! This illness has revealed my finest resources, an unprecedented fury to be alive, accept, be resilient, combative and I have thanks to Mister K to refocus my life (well ok one with which I would rather have dispensed, but it's like that)! Today, I just have to soften me, and back to basics, and learn how to LET GO!!

Where I'm coming i am trying to forget the moment of illness, and to remember who we are, what we like, what we dislike, what makes us feel good, what we displease, what we displease, never lose faith in what you are in depth. If there is one thing possible to learn it's that thing! To refocus on what you really are, it's the opportunity to be egocentric at 100% one time in your life, and so to only listen to your body, your mind, and its needs!

This phase can pass through several steps :

1) refocus your entourage, choose only people that make you feel good, and pause negative people or elements. The entourage is an essential pillar, you have to be accompanied by strong people, generous one, benevolent one, those who listen, those who really like you, the others you FORGET!!

2) know yourself/listen to you: as I told you in my post: anger/loneliness it's very important to learn to really know you, and when such a crap come crashing down on you, even if your entourage is precious, I believe that it is necessary to see a shrink to empty your bag on the one hand, but especially to better know yourself, on the other hand!

3) In addition to the shrink, I believe in meditation , can also be an excellent help to listen to you! Listen to your body, know how to feel good, and know what your body needs!

Where to come with ALL of this? Be yourself! Don't keep you going! Stay worthy! Stay a woman or a man! Be true to yourself! Even after suffering from mutilating surgeries, even with a skinhead, look in the mirror and like you!

To stay confident, I think that's fundamental during the battle to stay coquettish, beautiful (skin), smell good, make up, and dress up.

This post is an object reminder concerning the deep motivation of my blog, and projects that will come!

Even if Mister K irrupts in our lives, be beautiful/worthy/coquet(te)/awarded it's fighting for life!

Fight for the image that you will send back in first but also to others, the “others” are the mirrors of yourself!

I flatter myself to have kept this “dignity” that was so important to me!

I admit that keeping my hair has helped me for that, but even this hair history it doesn't spoil your femininity, Mom was sublime without her hair, my friend Ilona was wonderful!

Why, because this beauty is subjective, because beauty is in the head if we estimate we are beautiful, if we respect we are beautiful, if we are worthy we are beautiful!

Beauty is an attitude; the facelift clearly contributes to arm your attitude! So do not deprive yourself of everything that exists to stay yourself (cream/make up/massage/sports/shopping°

So even if it's difficult, we take off our pajamas, we run to our bathroom, we put cream, we feel good, we turbaned with our more beautiful scarf, hat, we dress with our favorite outfit, we make up and we like us ☺

My next posts will therefore be the same! I will remind you what were my highlight techniques give you the keys to feel beautiful thanks to some tricks and my famous project in construction, that you will see the day in next December. And if Mister K fighting kit will become real kits…. ? I will tell you more very very soon ;) Have a nice day Charlotte

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