ITW #71: Maya - close to K fighter.
today the delicate Maya, 41 years old, founder of the very beautiful Association l'Hirondelle , tells us with great sensitivity and emotion, how from a life test following her Dad's lightning K, she knew how to create something beautiful and so useful; restore dignity and self-esteem: through its association which offers socio-hairdressing treatments in medical, medico-social and integration environments, thus reminding us that beauty is not futile but helps to live better and overcome challenges (Idea that I defend as you know 100%). To help the Association develop, Maya needs us, you, visit Hello Asso because as she says so well: “alone we are invisible, together we are invincible.”
Let's get started:
Who are you ?
First name: Maya
Age: 41 years old
Profession: Consultant in social and solidarity development strategy.
You decided to create L'Association Hirondelle, how did this great idea come about?
The idea was born from the demand for the land; Treating yourself to hair care is sometimes an accessory when it matters most. Each stage of life is important, we give and we receive, the Hirondelle association allows us to receive appropriate hair care in sometimes difficult times
Are you alone in your association?
To date, there are 2 of us, but all of the certified socio-hairdressers are waiting to be able to put their professional practice to good use. There are 70 of them across France who can join us
If there are several of you, how have you distributed the tasks?
Today we are in the launch phase and looking for partners. Maya looks for partners, and Marie Pierre coordinates everything.
What K did your Dad get?
Severe brain cancer.
What were your feelings when the announcement was made, how old were you?
Fatality, immense sadness and maternal love for my dad. 41 years.
What are the nugget phrases that we could have said to you or to him during the K and which could have been avoided?
The doctors after the CT scan explained to me very abruptly that it was almost the end and that he would never come home. And another emergency came up so I went to see him and told him. My dad was very shocked that it was his daughter who found herself with eyes full of despair having to tell him.
What did you do to take his mind off things during K ?
Make your last living space comfortable, happy, reassuring and friendly.
How was your life in the medical profession? Did you find the answers you were looking for, did you manage to understand everything?
I signed a letter with my dad that the hospital provided to us very quickly so that the end would not be humiliating or too painful. It has not happened.
I didn't find any answer except from the hospital psychologist, so it was more spiritual.
What was your first feeling when you first met the treatments (chemotherapy/hospital)?
He had no treatment because between his first hospitalization for pain and his death, only a few quick days passed. He didn't leave the hospital again and neither did I, so to speak.
Did you get information on the internet?
What were your beauty/well-being tips during the treatments to accompany it?
The cologne on his body that he loved so much. Daily hand and foot massage with arnica oil and lavender essential oil. The treats and the smiles. Decorate his room with flowers, paintings, books that he loved and change the sheets/pillows/blanket with his own. His sudden physical suffering was such that all these small gestures brought him rest and probably shelter.
No beauty tips when it's so devastating because the body transforms at high speed towards degradation.
Were you able to talk freely about it to your loved ones? Did you feel supported/supported/understood?
Yes very freely but with this desire not to give a terrible image of his state because he had lost his mind with the rest. The end was nothing but degrading for him. I had great support from his friends and wonderful encounters on what I call death row. Sometimes a look, a coffee, a smile and a few words help you overcome. The “visitors” of these places understand each other without speaking much. And of course my family and friends.
What advice would you give to other loved ones to support a K fighter?
To not regret anything, to do whatever we want and what we think is best to help. Enjoy the moment.
What has this ordeal changed in your life (your vision of the world, of those around you, any disappointments? Any great discoveries despite everything?)
I lost my dad. But I lost him in terrible suffering and moral and physical degradation. When are we going to stop making humans suffer so much when they are condemned. I came to think of finishing him off myself to relieve him and restore his dignity. Is it normal to make those around you suffer so much? Vast debate.
After such an experience/life test we understand that you wanted to give meaning and create your project, can you tell us more about L'Hirondelle:
The swallow symbolizes hope, and allows everyone to take a moment for themselves, and for others because if we feel beautiful we are more available to enjoy what is essential.
Where do you offer your services?
Interventions in all living spaces. We can bring our skills to different living spaces such as medical, medico-social, social settings, remand centers, fitted hair salons as well as in people's homes.
What are your ideas for the future?
perpetuate the association, make it known and recognized, organize a tour of France through activities in the various territories
Links to follow you (site / social networks):
The Hirondelle Facebook page, this way!
Our website ( which deserves to be improved ), this way!
Free field (what would you like to add that is not in my questions):
Each human being is unique, and despite the masks we wear at each stage of life, finding the essential remains exceptional moments, which allow us to illuminate everything around us.
The swallow has ambition but alone we are invisible, together we are invincible.
Thank you Maya for your testimony, and your wonderful commitment.
If, like Maya, you have a project around K and you would like to share it on the blog, by telling your story, send me an email to: email@example.com
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